We all Pretend…



Let Go


Sometimes I think people think there is an invisible committee

of half crazed minimalists

conspiring to force them to get rid of all of their material possessions.

There isn’t!


If you like your stuff? Keep it!

  • Is there  value in that closet over flowing with unworn clothes?
  • That closet brimming with mismatched bath towels?
  • What about the basement abounding with un-played-with toys and Beanie Babies?
  • That attic stuffed with collections of trinkets?
  • That shelfs overrun by dusty DVDs, CDs, VHS tapes?

Great! Hold tight if you feel so inclined. Permission granted.

You have permission to keep anything that adds value to your life.download
And you have permission to keep anything that doesn’t add value to your life.

But you also have permission to let go.

  • You have permission to clear the clutter.
  • You have permission to remove the excess.
    • —the clothes you don’t wear, the junk you don’t use, the things you hold on to just in case

and focus on what’s truly important to you: health, relationships, passions.

Either way—you have permission.
Of course, you don’t need anyone else’s permission—only your own.

I didn’t know you could sew?

A million years ago, I remember standing in a cold, utilitarian office space, just doing my job.  The next five minutes of banter would change my life forever……wpid-804866249_355821.gif He said, “When are you going to give up and go out with me?” I said, “Give me one good reason.” And the rest is history.  I never would have guessed.  I never could have imagined that a man that seemed so different from me would fit so well.  There’s never been such chemistry as ours. I miss him. Thankfully he’s not gone from this earth, but presently, he’s gone from my life. I long for the day that I can lay by his side again.  I day dream about the lazy afternoons we would spend discussing the world and sipping coffee.  And I need the laughter to become a regular occurrence again. The childlike games, pranks; oh the laughter; sometimes we laughed only with our eyes, but we laughed!

I do miss this man. My heart, my mind, my body are lonely.




To You

I am on this journey alone, i know.
The road is long and cold.
But you said I would have a hand to hold.

May a draw your attention to the golden shrine to your favorite.  And remind you of all the times you’ve reminded me, the lesser, that I am not. That I am less. May I guide your memory to all the times that with words well chosen, in tones well practiced, without saying the actual words, reminded me that I am less. My ideas are not to be considered, not even mulled over. That my words need not be heard, lest to dissected and criticized. I am to be humored, put up with. And unless it be to your benefit, to improve your status, to make your point, me and my accomplishments are less. I am no longer the child begging your forgiveness with a golden trinket.

I too have frameable paper that could collect dust on the wall. Have you forgotten that I too have alphabet after my name?  I too have been many places in my life and seen and accomplished many things. I too have provided you with grandchildren. And to my merit, I have done it while battling mental illness.

I am not perfect. I am the first one to tell people that I am impossible, difficult, stubborn. But at least I listen. I listen to what is said, without interruption. I consider what is said and look for merit. I do not jump to conclusions or pass judgement, unless I come from a place of knowledge and/or experience. I try to be positive. I try to be compassionate. I try to contain my selfishness. I try to improve myself and be a better human being. And I put plans into motion to help me be successful in my attempts. I have studied. I have lived. I understand the process.

I would love to be able to sit back and use the excuse, I’m old. I’m set in my ways. I can not change. But I know that is incorrect. I’ve studied the human condition. Everyone is capable of change, if they want it, if they truly want it.

So that leads me to believe that you do not want to change, to grow, to improve yourself. You want nothing around you to change. Like one of the many “things” you’ve collected, you’ve now added me to your collection. Something to add depth to your stories.  Something for you to talk about. And I believe under false promises. You told me you know it was going to be hard, that there would need to be some changes, that we could be equals. We could be two dear friends, sharing a home.  Looking to each other for help, companionship, strength.

So now the voices in my head are screaming. Unresolved issues attack me at every turn. Simple tasks are chores.  Words cut me till I bleed and yet the silence is deafening. I am not happy. I do not feel safe. I am not at home. Sharp words escape my lips, aimed to cause awareness, realization, understanding. I am finding it impossible to remain neutral, understanding, patient. This arrangement, to my understanding, was supposed to be a two way street.  Most of the time, I feel like I’m in it alone.

If it is my fate to be alone, so be it. I will move on. Just please be honest with me, with yourself. If this is to work, we both have to work at it. And if there is no energy, no desire to work at it, then changes need to be made.

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